Old friend meet up

[Mickky]

I’m feeling really pecked. I have had a rescue dog which had been abused. I’ve had her about three years. She is only happy exercising in the garden and going for a little walk in the avenue where she lives. After trying many different things my vet and I decided together that I would just exercise her in the garden with a ball and let her walk where she is comfortable. It’s heartbreaking that she is like this, but I’ve learned to accommodate her over the years and she is having a happy life.

I’ve had to explain why she is like she is so many times over the years and I’m fed up of explaining to people. Now an old friend has contacted me who is wanting to meet up and go for walks with her dog. I’ve tried to explain the situation but it just isn’t sinking in. I’m having to repeat myself, and it’s upsetting, and I have to say annoying. I feel questioned, judged, and not heard. I’m feeling like telling the old friend to forget it. Am I being unreasonable?

Can't you just go with her and her dog and leave yours at home?

What is your dog like with other dogs? If he is OK would it be worth inviting your friend to your house.

That's what I have suggested but she keeps wanting me to bring my dog out with hers.

She's OK sometimes but it depends on the dog.

This is annoying.

You know your dog and her needs. Good for you for learning about her and responding to her.

Just keep saying, "Theg doesn't work for me / dog."

Your friend will get the message.

Who cares what she thinks?

Your dog, your responsibility.

My dog is exactly the same as yours. After two years of being chained up (abroad) she is happy just ambling up the road or racing round the garden and then just lounging. I have to tell friends that if we go on walks then Ddog won't be coming. It's tough if they don't understand but that's how it is.

Arrange a meet-up time. Don't take your dog. Do this every time. If she persists in asking why you haven't brought your dog, say "I've told you." Just say that and keep repeating it if she keeps asking. Don't bother explaining any more.

If it gets on your wick, say "That's it, I'm not meeting for a walk with you any more. Bye." and leave.

Perhaps just turn out without your dog

Thanks everyone for your messages and understanding. I'm definitely not taking my dog out anywhere which would frighten her. I guess I just wanted to vent because I'm so fed up of having to explain to people and feeling judged.